Janet McIlwaine
Janet McIlwaine
Janet McIlwaine

Obituary of Janet McIlwaine

On the beautiful, bluebird afternoon of Saturday, September 14, 2019, the world lost a truly

special soul with the passing of beloved wife, mother, grandmother and sister, Janet Marie

(Soran) McIlwaine, at the age of 73.

Janet’s remarkable spirit is carried on by her husband, four children, eight grandchildren, five

siblings and an extended family of relations, colleagues and friends from every walk of life.

Janet was born on August 9, 1946 in Denver, Colorado to James (Jim) and Genevieve (Jane)

Soran. On June 17,1967 she married John (Jay) Conrad McIlwaine. Together with Jay, she

raised four brilliant and exceptional children- a son, Tiernan, and three daughters, Alanna, Kara

and Stacey. She received a bachelor’s degree in social work from Seattle University in 1968

and then a master of social work degree from Colorado State University in Fort Collins in 1986.

Jan worked as a social worker for 30+ years in the Denver area.

Although she had so many wonderful qualities, Janet’s true superpower lay in helping, teaching

and counseling others. She perfected this power during the 16 years she worked as a social

worker and victims’ advocate in the Emergency Department at Denver (General) Health, and

then for the 17 years she worked as a case manager and eventually director of the Palliative

(Supportive) Care department for Kaiser Permanente. Her crowning achievement was being

selected for the distinguished KP Summit Award in 2006 for her instrumental work in the

research and development of that department.

The magnanimous guidance and counseling she provided to those suffering and in need,

including her family, friends and countless clients, was rooted deep in her core. Her astute

advice and understanding came seemingly without effort. So too did her humor. Janet could

split your sides from laughing at her quick wit and brilliant one-liners.

Away from work Janet relished countless outdoor adventures with her adoring and devoted

husband of 52 years and her four children. Whether in a kayak, on skis, on a bicycle, or on foot,

Janet loved nothing more than experiencing and exploring the beautiful outdoors with the ones

she loved. While she really enjoyed visiting many of the national parks and wild places of the

western US and Canada, Glacier National Park and the states of Washington, Utah and

Colorado were definitely very special to her.

The hours are truly innumerable that she spent hiking in the open spaces of Jefferson County


Janet also cherished the annual girls’ weekend getaways to Breckenridge and the Broadmoor

that she shared with women who were dear to her, over the years. We have heard that they

could get quite lively.

Known affectionately as “Nana” to her 8 adored grandchildren, she radiated pure joy and love

whenever she was goofing around and playing with them. They will forever remember her for

her humor and her gentle, loving nature.

During the last several years, Janet was the epitome of grace and equanimity while living with

and enduring the cruel, gradual thief known as Alzheimer’s disease, never losing her shrewd

sense of humor nor her adoration for her family. Despite losing the ability to communicate

verbally, she could still make us laugh and one could physically see her energy and mood

brighten whenever family was around her.

There is now a giant void in the world where Janet’s spirit and energy once occupied.

A celebration of Jan’s life will be held on the afternoon of Saturday, October 5th, 2019 at her

and Jay’s home in Conifer at 26196 Rea Ave, Conifer, CO, 80433 starting at 1:00 pm and going

until dusk. Guests are welcome to come anytime during those hours and are welcome to stay

for as little or as long as they would like. Also, for those who choose to attend the celebration,

please bring a single flower, not a bouquet or an arrangement, to contribute to a group

arrangement as well as a small to medium size rock to add to a rock cairn that will reside on

the property in Conifer.

For those interested in making donations in Jan’s name, we are recommending Jefferson

County Open Space, these parks held a special place in Janets’s heart.

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